My point with the other people or friends is that they have a theory and share it with you and then I am struck with "wow, never thought of it like that?"
You get that here too, hopefully.
The idea I had was the goal. What was my goal? Well...to be married. I listened to the people (friends and family) who told me to get out as quick as possible.
After they spoke I thanked them for their advice, but I told them what I WANTED from them. I also told them that if they couldn't support my choice then I didn't want their advice. If they couldn't stop telling me their advice then I would not be around them.
I basically told them how they could support me and if they couldn't I just wouldn't be around them.
Good sites for kids or books...
I didn't really go that route. I just spent more time with them and answered their questions without demonizing their mother. I told them that me and mom were having problems but that it was not their fault, it would never be their fault and that we both loved them very very much no matter what happened between me and mom.
The books are pretty much going to say the same things. Spend time and love your kids.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
