Good for you on going out, not just because you looked good it front of H, but for YOU, and the positive attitude is a must, again, great in front of H, but for YOU. You will find it surprising that the "act as if" will start to actually make you that way, take it from me IT WILL HELP. Looking and smelling good is a must at all times, not just in front of H, but H will notice even if he says nothing. Yes it's nice to get attention, but as with me, not ready for another R just yet.
Plus, the BBQ, great how small things make us feel good, same as me when I did the washing and ironing LOL
From my experience the vets here are correct, 180's and GAL activities DO HELP, mainly for you. I actually went 2 nights last week without thinking about W (when GAL) but thoughts are always there in the dead of night, so was a positive move.
Consistent actions are now the key for you
Ohh, and a few of points to remember. Keep telling yourself
1) No matter what happens, you will handle it 2) You are the only person responsible for your needs, wants and happiness 3) Be willing to let go of what you have to get what you want 4) Put yourself first (well after to two young ones) 5) Life will happen
Me - 37 W - 38 D - 14 S - 12 Together - 16 Married - 12 Bomb - April 13, 2011 W moved out - May 13, 2011
The man I became is changing back to the man I was........... and more
