Yes, 9. She will think about the OM a lot over the next while.
Expected... on MANY different levels...
My W, IIRC had many nightmares about her partner coming back. Doing things. The big one for her I think was that he told her before she had called the cops, that he would take D13 away from her and she would never see D13 again (abduction). It was plausible, and she had a HUGE fear about that.
And of course, she worried about his well being. She hoped he would be OK. While she was scared of him, she still wanted to "save" him... I think she transfered some of that to me, she likes to "save" people.
And... eventually the thoughts slow down. I expect she still has them, during our M and even now. Again, that's understandable.
As far as her concern over OW... again...
Know how YOU felt with her and OM. I'm sure you've posted some of the exact same thoughts that your W is saying to you now, on your previous topics...
You KNOW what she is going through. You CAN empathize with her...
How will YOU handle that?
You aren't sucked in, this is a unique situation and helping your W remain safe is VERY important.
For your sake, you need to be clear that you are supporting her through this difficult and scary time for her, and that your M is still where it is.
By being clear in your OWN mind about the above, you can ACT accordingly. So you will SHOW her with your actions, even if your words fail you or you would rather not say them or you say something different...
She will notice and come to understand that she can believe 100% of what you do, and only 50% of what you say...
