Very, You got the wrong counselor.. Disregard the comments and suggestions.. I do believe that you are on the right path so if it has been working for you the you must be doing something right.
Regarding ML that is each person's own decision. However I would make sure you protect yourself not just from emotional harm but the obvious STD. Sorry not trying to upset you but the truth is you dont actually know what else is going on.
I would truly love for my H to initiate some Phys. contact however he wont and I wont. His acknowledgement of your anniversary doesnt mean that he doesnt care. He may have blocked it out as to not remind himself of the day.
I would say keep GAL and dont worry about the future worry about right now. If the time comes and you are ready to renew your lease and you get nothing from him act "as if". You cannot force the situation even if it makes financial sense. So act "as if" you are moving on without him. THen be prepared to do so if necessary..
I dont know how you communicate about things however if you find out he has signed a new lease. Dont let him know that hurts you even though it may steam roll you. Dont let him see you upset retaining control of yourself and your emotions is key here.
I think that as women we over analyze things and then when they dont go the way we think they will we freak out. The problem with that is we dont truly have control of anyone or anything but our own selves and emotions. Focus on you and what makes you happy and a better person!
You will be fine! No matter how it feels at this moment! BTW.. Im no expert and I open mouth and insert foot quite a lot so take my comments with a grain of salt..
______________________________________ H:32 W: 35 M- 11 Tog- 13 D-5 S-9 Sep. June 5th Bomb 6/27/11 OW Discovered on July 18th and admitted.... Divorced 11/22/2011 Ex Engaged to OW Jan. 2012
