You are both spot on. I actually said something like that in my post above. But I didn't admit just how angry I am with myself for living with her affair for so many years. I told myself that I did it for my kids. But, that's not really true. I did it because I was too scared to do anything about it. Somehow, I thought I deserved it and should just live my life on the surface and keep pretending it wasn't there.
It wasn't until they made their relationship public that I finally admitted it was real and even then, I was like a puppy waiting for her to come back to me. OM does make her happy. I can't understand how when he appears to be such a liar without morals, but he obviously provides her with something I don't.
He is simply the better man for her. I now need to be a better man for me and my kids. I need to BeTheMan.
