JS - Couldn't agree with you more about the expecting more. I'm trying not to have any expectations of her, only of myself. This is not easy, but I feel I am getting better. Having limited contact is good.
No need to apologize, the abuse and the co-dependency go hand in hand. Talked to C today, even though w doesn't abuse any more, it still feels that way to me. Alot of work I need to do there.
Detachment and Boundaries are important. I imagine as I get stronger, I can detach more and set up clearer boundaries. Because I am a perfectionist, I tend to pressure myself.. wanting to set boundaries I can't keep at the moment. I realize I am getting stronger, but am not quite there yet. I need to slow down and appreciate all the baby steps I am taking towards both. It's not a race, it's a process.
Loved the links, thank you so much for thoughts!
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
