Val, when I was very new on this board I looked for meaning and solutions in every response and statement my S made. I see a little bit of that in your posts. I think it is fairly common. You had some contact with your W. It wasn’t all you hoped for, but you yourself said it was good, not good for the M but good. I was trying to say accept it as good and don’t expect more.
Earlier in this thread I understood you to say you were codependent and your W was abusive either of these on their own is pretty toxic to a R. They seem to go hand in hand. I apoligize for reading into your situation.
The detachment and boundaries links were important to me early on, they still are. Prior to posting them to you I reviewed the links, and found the one about codependency. These are just another source of knowledge. They may have meaning. It is your decision if they do. I only hope to help a little; I pray to do no harm, not bad for an old grunt.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
