Perhaps you've noticed this already, but in retraining the anger toward your H, do you find yourself more patient and tolerant in general? I do. Another by-product of the 180s, I suppose.
Very much so! I'm much less angrier in general. I still have things that make me angry, but I don't lose control and go into a fit of rage. I used to do that over the littlest things and now I ask myself "In a day/week/month/year from now, is this really going to matter?" And that helps tremendously.
I was talking to my B tonight on the phone, and he is just so level headed and mellow and always has a way of putting things into perspective. We were discussing trust in relationships and my obsession with checking the cell phone records and he told me he refuses to have a relationship with ANYONE whom he feels the need to have to snoop through phones or emails, etc and vice versa. He said if it comes down to that, then it is an indication that it's time to move on.
Also, he said that it doesn't matter how much he loves someone, if they don't love him back, he needs to let go. Seriously, nobody should have to convince their partner to love them or stay with them, don't you think? I know it all ties in with DR, but for some reason hearing him say it, it struck a chord in me.
"Everyone you meet has baggage. Find someone who loves you enough to help you unpack." ¤Formerly DelinquentGurl¤
