DG, you've done well holding back w/ the anger. I, too, let my anger get the best of me in my marriage and, as you know, it came with a very high cost.

Perhaps you've noticed this already, but in retraining the anger toward your H, do you find yourself more patient and tolerant in general? I do. Another by-product of the 180s, I suppose.

H 56
W 48
D27,S21
SS25
SS22 Severely autistic
M(#2 for both) 9 1/2 yrs.
"I've never loved you" 3/7/2011
Separated 8/7/2011
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