I'm sure there's more. Those are what I can think of, right now.
+ If you're upset--what do you want your partner to do? to say?
- I would like my W to empathize with me. I would like her to validate my feelings. I would like her to let me know that she loves me and that everything will be fine. She once told me that she "believed in me". That meant so much to me.
+ If you're excited--what do you want from your spouse?
- I want her to be excited WITH me. I would like her to be interested in what I was excited about. I would like her to be proud of me, if I was excited about an accomplishment that I helped create.
+ What is a loving expression to your spouse?
- I believe that touch and empathy are loving expressions to my W. When she talks about something she is passionate about, I believe she appreciates when I listen to her, that I validate her feelings, and that I am close to her. I know that my W is touch oriented and that she enjoys a massage (back rub, etc).
