7 weeks to exH marries OW

[ClingingToHope]

The putting a person first thing.

OK. After XW and I split up, I found some marriage rebuilders classes and started to go.

Lots of good stuff in it. Stuff neither one of us really knew, because we just kept to ourselves.

Here's a big one and it goes to that point.

In a marriage, the man and the woman are in the center circle together. EVERYONE else, parents, friends, kids, are in the outer circles.

At its heart, marriage is about the man and the woman.

So if you feel you did put the kids first, that's part of the problem. I did the same thing. I put our kids first. Always. I thought that's what you do as a parent.

After going through the classes, I forgot that it's about the marriage first.

I wish I could go back and do that over.