I'm glad you realized that self medicating yourself with alcohol is a lose/lose situation. When H first left, I couldn't sleep so I turned to Tylenol pm and Benadryl to help me sleep. I guess I just didn't want to have to feel anything. Before I knew it, I was taking up to 6 Benadryl a night, and sometimes also taking Tylenol. I would wake up in the morning and could hardly hold my head up. I realized that unless I wanted to be on an episode of Intervention I needed to stop. I haven't taken any type of sleep aid in over a month and I am proud of myself. Good for you for realizing it also.
I would just ask W to send the shoes with SD next time you visit her. That way you don't have to see her.
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