still lost and still searching 2

[MrBond]

Sounds like it's on a positive track. It helps when the OM is a douche. On the contrary though, I have seen this way work. You're just going to have to play it by ear and adjust your conversations accordingly.

One word of warning though is that the OM will build up the guilt and pressure in your W. While it's easy to say "well she needs to make a decision...either he or me", for a woman and her emotions, it's not that simple.

Be strong yet firm and you can guide her along the way without feeling like she's being forced to. You've been changing her attitude and thoughts about you. Keep those up.