Girl, it sounds to me like you are spending too much time telling your H what you're doing to give him space, i.e. telling him you almost asked for a hug, apologizing for being so close to him. Just do, don't talk about it, IMO.
I don't know if it's appropriate to recommended a coach by name on this message board. I understand all of the coaches have been at this for a long time and they're all good. I've had 10 DB coaching sessions myself and they've all been good. My suggestion is to prepare ahead of time with your questions and a synopsis of the current state of affairs.
