Val,
Originally Posted By: Valeska19
I see this as a good sign. Not necessarily for our m, but a good sign that we are both changing.

IDK, seems to me you needed change to give your M a chance. The relationship you’ve described seemed pretty toxic to me. Good is good, accept it for what it is, good from your point of view. If it is good for the M so much the better.

Early on in my journey here I was referred to these pages. Perhaps there is something here for you.
http://www.livestrong.com/article/14712-developing-detachment/
http://www.livestrong.com/article/14718-building-healthy-boundaries/
http://www.livestrong.com/article/14672-eliminating-caretaker-behavior/
I hope I am not violating a boundary posting these links.

BITS
Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55
D 30
S 27

You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill