Well one thing I can say with complete confidence.
You keep it interesting.
Now where do we go from here?
The million dollar question...........
Nowhere!
You are NOT in the process of reconciliation or anything alike. It is funny just when things start to look up something like this happens. It does not matter, you know what does matter? How you handle it from now on.
Awhile ago Sandi said your W might have some health issues and you were getting sucked in. I agreed with her then, I agree with her even more now.
The trigger for your W was exactly what I have been telling you it was. MOVE on and she goes NUTS!
After what has happened to do you stop?
Do you get sucked in to the drama?
Do you feel guilt?
The answer to all the above is NO.
YOU need to completely disconnect from this nonsense and continue to live your life and you need to stay DARK! Not for some trick but because you have to. For YOUR sanity and well being.
The reality of the sitch is that SHE is living with OM, she has dated him for a year, when she has mental breakdowns she comes to you or lashes out at you and you TAKE it.
I do have some 2x4's for you and it is that you continued to pursue after the fact. Proof......
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Then I ask her if we can ML
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So now what?
So now nothing. You both fell into the moment and my friend trust I am not criticizing AT ALL because I would have done the same thing, hell I tried when I was in OK.
9 I want you to save this thing I again I tell you, it can be. I see a lot of hope for you BUT not until you walk away completely and MOVE on.
IF/When she turns around you will know and then YOU can decide what you want to do.
You know all the pain you have been in. Guess what? I imagine the pain of having to decide to take your W back when that time comes after you have moved on will be as bad or even worse. That is the way I imagine it to be.
For the meantime you need to continue to heal and any more contact with her will only hurt you and hurt her. If it involves the kids I say respond, in a timely manner not right away.
9 you have been to hell and back but you need to put 9 and the kids first. She has her own issues to worry about and you CANNOT save her from herself.
As long as OM is in the picture there is nothing to talk about.
Stop setting yourself up for failure by ML to her and asking question to which you are not ready to hear the answers to.
LET HER COME TO YOU
LET HER SEEK YOU OUT
In the meantime continue to live your life. OW sounds pretty cool. GO have some fun. Don't rub it in you W's face. Always be kind, loving and compassionate but do not get sucked in the drama.
She has made her choices
So now it is time for you to make yours.
The kids and 9, that is it.
The minute she sees you slipping away she throws a temper tantrum and you are there to help her along. Then you end feeling like crap for a few days after all the progress you think you have made.
One more thing........
Next time OM approaches you just politely tell him
9: OM. I would recommend that you go back to washing dishes or flipping burgers before I kick your ass right off this fking planet
