Stop the Coaster, I want OFF!

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9 i took a break from the forums this weekend. Just caught up with your sitch. Wow is my reaction. I never thought some of those swearwords could be used in those combination.

But secondly, you should have realized that moment things between you guys were swinging 180, that a rollercoaster was about to start. I am telling this with my own experience. When that happens, you can keep your sanity by getting off and watching it with patience.

Secondly, dont engage the OM in convo. He does not even deserve the decency of your convo with him. By talking to him and prolonging that convo, you are just giving him the respect he does not deserve.

Third, you were worried that OM might tell your new friend. Let him. Does that mean you are less of a man? Nope you are not. Take a look at yourself.
1: You have a job.
2: You have recognized your mistakes in your marriage and you are on these forums trying to turn a page
3: You have the courage and love and compassion to love your woman even though she has hurt you.
4: You are being a good dad to your kids.

All this takes b*lls. You have to proud of who you are and what you are becoming. So if your new friend cannot see through the BS that OM dished out, then know that you have something better out there for you.

As for your interaction with your W, take a break. Set a goal for your interaction. Plan the steps like a game. And execute them. And dont let circumstances change the outcome.