Stop the Coaster, I want OFF!

[aeolianchaos]

Im at my school getting my cleats, I call her as I have been thinking about the course of the day and How really , nothing was settled and she wants me to wait for her to come back to family but not really to wait. Its confusing. She is going to continue with OM.

I call.

M: Ive been thinking about today, and Im not sure what that was all about. Im sorry, Im out. I cant keep waiting for you while you are with om.

Yeah. I can see how this might have been perceived negatively by her.

I'm going to throw this out there, and I mean no insult to your W: She seems to have some real issues w/ self-esteem and perhaps for her sexual access is a way that she raises her sense of self worth?

She also seems to be more comfortable in the angry-victim role. She clearly took this very personally that you would pull back after what happened. It seems like she defaulted to a position of being the victim and its where she feels safest.

Her tirades indicate a lot more to me about her personal unresolved issues than they indicate about you. She really seems to flip that switch quite quickly and I can only imagine the kind of internal suffering she is trying to cope with.

Would the best in 9lives choose to be more compassionate towards that? What does that look like? Even if you really never have anything to do w/ each other again?

But yeah, keep that kind of unchecked rage away from your kids - its really not the best thing for them to deal with.