Wow this post hit me in the right place.. I think when we start out we get confused.. We are supposed act as if.. our heart wants to just be where we were when there wasnt pain. Acting as if often means moving on and how can you do that if you want your marriage.
It is all a big puzzle for each person to figure out how to put together.. The picture at the end is the surprise but you cant get that ending if you dont put in the work.
It is also a gamble on whether or not you are getting the picture you hope for. However I think the work being done is the key maybe not the picture..
I wonder if anyone has been through this program that hasnt stumbled and backslid? I doubt it.. I thought in the beginning I might be able to do that I was lying to myself.. Not just about backsliding but about actually putting in the work..
My poiht is I agree that no amount of words or tears will change their mind. Honesty with yourself and working on your own issues seems to be the best.. at least for me..
______________________________________ H:32 W: 35 M- 11 Tog- 13 D-5 S-9 Sep. June 5th Bomb 6/27/11 OW Discovered on July 18th and admitted.... Divorced 11/22/2011 Ex Engaged to OW Jan. 2012
