I reacted out of emotion. It is pretty tough to have your spouse tell you they have been unfaithful.

Btw, what's to wonder. She cheated on me, I had every right to call her on it. We discussed it briefly, I sent those texts, and I am dark.

Was I supposed to just keep that I knew about the infidelity to myself?

I dont understand. How can a bomb like that go without emotion?

I am desperately trying to follow DR. Am taking my anger over her Affair and channelling that into GAL. I am using every ounce of strength to keep focussed. I did not resort to yelling or screaming when she admitted the A. That is all 180 behavior for me, and I feel good about it. The old me would have screamed and cried and everything. I was rational and calm. Furthermore, I went to her family BBQ and endured the torture for longer. The old me would have not gone. Instead, I showed my wife through action that I was ok, even though I wasn't.

Me 45 W 34 W.A.W.
3K. D11 S9 D6
M 12 y T 13 y
Bomb drop 02/22/2011
2nd written bomb (Letter bomb) 05/31/2011
Affair (A bomb) revealed 07/03/2011