Nine - You and I are so much alike it's crazy. We have both done crappy jobs of dbing. We both are WAY to much involved in what our W do. We are both passive-aggressive and likely always were.
The only difference between our S now, is that my STBX is now fully entrenched in her relationship with OM. So, I have finally no longer been given any choice, other than to give up and say I am done. As soon, I did that, my anger and hate came rising up to the boiling point. If you really are at the point of being done, please be prepared for the anger and the hate. STBX's 8 year affair likely makes mine worse than yours, but since you and I are so much alike, I need to warn you.
At the very least, go dark again. 100% completely and totally dark. Remember how much better it was when we had our darkness pact? Go there. Now.
