I am not going to push this any further than i have. She has seen the changes i have made, she has seen the changes in our family. My wife was the biggest family person i knew. You could never leave without a hug, kiss and an ILU if you were family. She would go out with D7 and her Grandma once a week for lunch. We always had family dinner on Sunday. We were the centre of both her family and mine.
She has lived an entire year without that. Her own Grandmother calls me at least once a week, but refuses to call OM's house to speak to her. She has lost everything but OM and his family, who dont really like her. OM's mom detests her, knows that as long as w is in OM life, no chance for grandbabies. She actually said this to wife. OM's dad, well he is vice president where my wife got fired from for theft. So he doesnt hold a high opinion of her. So really, all she has is OM. As we all know, no one can make us happy but ourselves. If we dont do the the things that make us happy or surround ourselves with the people who mean something to us, it is really hard to have a positive outlook.
I feel that if i can get her home, i have wone 1/4 of the battle. When she is home for her visits, we are a happy family, we interact and laugh and have good times.
My goal is to get her home, continue to have these good times, hopefully i wont backslide to much. Based on her conversations with me, i dont think OM will be involved once she leaves his home. Im not going to push her, i know there will be a very tough road ahead for her as she goes through withdrawal from him.
I think i will steer this course until she is ready to progress. We have a long history together, i have done all of the changes she brought up and then some. it will only be a matter of time. I have lots of that.
