I know many who disagree, but I believe that if you want answers or to close a door, you need to ask him. He may lie. He may give misleading answers. He may close a door that is open. He may also hurt you. But you'll have some knowledge that you weren't guessing at his thoughts. He also will know how you feel.
in my sitch, i needed my wife to say she was closing the door and filing for me to finally give up after a year of trying and big 180s. Not 180a for her, but for me. So I'm better off for another future, but i couldn't leave my past dream without knowing she had a clear decision at that point in time. I still kept up at most 180s and I'm still doing what i would if ivwas trying to save my marriage. I am still listening if she had a 180 of her own. But, I am moving forward anyhow.
My thoughts, but your life. Choose what works for you. Best of luck and God bless.
