I mean I know while I should be happy about remaining calm towards her when she basically told me she's sleeping with another man at the same time I feel like a complete coward for not standing up for myself about it.
Cowardice is failing to demonstrate sufficient courage in the face of a challenge (as per wikipedia). Are you sure that what you are doing is cowardice?
Is it not standing up for yourself to aspire towards a higher ideal than 'fighting what already is'?
I think a lot of this stuff is about how you frame it - if you aspire to be a collected and strong person with a positive self-image, then you took a courageous step in the face of a big challenge to your ego, and did well.
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I have started to think that maybe my WAW has been trying to start arguments and trying to get a rise out me in an attempt to get me so mad that I will go off on her so that maybe she can justify some of her actions.
Maybe. You can't read her mind though, so its kind of moot. Make the decision that you will be proud of 10 years from now and you'll probably be better off.
M: 32 W: 29 T: 9 Years M: 4 Years I hit rock bottom: 2/11 PA admitted: 4/11 WAW: 5/11 D filed: 6/11 now: Patience, wisdom, and growth - hopefully.
