You can ask later, IF you still want the details down the road, you can ask when you can handle them.
Once you know, you can't un-ring the bell. So please hold off on that.
And don't send the letter.
Mostly, you are talking about giving an ultimatum...that's fine if and only if
you are ready to follow through on it.
If you tell her to choose NOW
be ready for her NOT to choose you.
Are you ready for that? Really?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016