NotFromThesePart, Thank you for writing back. I think this is going to end quickly. I believe thats what he wants. We have a pre trial hearing with the judge in August. I dont know what that entails. I dont know what happens on that date. I know the lawyers have been talking about a settlement but I dont want it to be at that stage. My H told me he wants things settled on the pre trial date. Im so scared. I dont want this. I hold onto hope and I dont know why. He has cheated on me, not once, he has lied. Why do I want this? But i do. Ive asked him to please slow this D process down. He said he needs to figure out where he will live so he wants it to be over in August. I cant handle that. How do you slow it down? I have set some goals. I got a part time job. I've joined a support group. But still Im having such a hard time. I feel like I have been dooped all these years. That this was all a joke. Thank You so much for writing back. If you could continue I would appreciate it. Happy 4th to you.