My man doesn't like confrontation at all, I have learned to make it completely nonthreatening and let him have his escape. This is innate in many men--the anxiety, anger or whatever they feel is physical and overwhelming. I don't know that that piece can ever be changed.
You probably already do that, since you've been together a very long time and you seem to have a wonderful heart.
I don't know what you've tried per your coach's recommendations or what the results were...if you'd like help, just post what you've tried.
I'm more concerned about you, your loneliness and pain. He's self-medicating. And you don't seem desperate, but I hate to see you hurting. What can you do this weekend to bring you joy?
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
