4evah'n'evah... awww maaan...

[aeolianchaos]

Can I empathize with her mindset...? I don't know. I struggle with that. The reason why I struggle is, while I truly believe money does not buy happiness, I am well aware that ...
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The point is, if one can provide enough value to earn a significant enough amount of money to live comfortably, with a certain level of "luxury" or "fun money", all excess can go towards contribution. Over and above what one will contribute with their own hands, directly on project.

I think that some smart people figured out that past $73000, money doesn't really get you any more happiness. Below that, it can be a factor. Probably in that having enough reduces a lot of other stressors. I'll have to take another look at that study...

Does your W feel resentment for being the one working? Does she feel like if you worked 'differently' that perhaps she could work less?

Does she ever say anything to indicate that the $$ issue is perhaps a source of resentment? Like, she wants you to tolerate the same rat race she is in? Does she feel its unfair that you have freedoms she doesn't?

In another post you talked about 'corporate commitment' and I thought that was an interesting way to put it. Is it possible that is a question of mindset and just not being able to see things differently for her?