Starsky is good with words and boundaries, I hope he throws his 2 cents in here.
IMO, leave out #3 all together.
Quote:
"Wife
Well yesterday was a rough day for both of us. No doubt you didn't sleep much either. I am respectfully giving you the time you need to process everything that happened yesterday. I want to make my request to you very clear, so here goes:
I cannot, and will not live under the same roof with someone who is continuing to be unfaithful. That Is NOT a line that I am willing to cross for anyone.
if you chose to continue to see this other person, then it is time for you to leave, I will give you 30 days. I do NOT want our kids exposed to that.3. If you choose to stay and work on our relationship, then I expect a REAL effort, not just lip service. I will continue to work on me, as I have been doing,
If you choose to stay in our home with our family, your relationship with this other person is to be terminated permanently immediately.
I am reiterating some of what I said yesterday, because I want to be clear, it is a decision that impacts everyone in our familys life.I expect a reply to this email as soon as you have read it, so that I know you understand.
We are counting on you.
IMO, the stuff in red is just guilt.
Are you respectfully giving her time to process or do you want a reply immediately?
Just a few suggestions ...
Peace PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
