How about this:

"Wife

Well yesterday was a rough day for both of us.  No doubt you didn't sleep much either.  I am respectfully giving you the time you need to process everything that happened yesterday.  I want to make my request to you very clear, so here goes:

1. I cannot, and will not live under the same roof with someone who is continuing to be unfaithful.  That Is NOT a line that I am willing to cross for anyone.

2. if you chose to continue to see this other person, then it is time for you to leave, I will give you 30 days.  I do NOT want our kids exposed to that.

3. If you choose to stay and work on our relationship, then I expect a REAL effort, not just lip service.  I will continue to work on me, as I have been doing,

4. If you choose to stay in our home with our family, your relationship with this other person is to be terminated permanently immediately.

I am reiterating some of what I said yesterday, because I want to be clear, it is a decision that impacts everyone in our familys life.  I expect a reply to this email as soon as you have read it, so that I know you understand.

We are counting on you.


Me 45 W 34 W.A.W.
3K. D11 S9 D6
M 12 y T 13 y
Bomb drop 02/22/2011
2nd written bomb (Letter bomb) 05/31/2011
Affair (A bomb) revealed 07/03/2011