Alright hoping... Are you familiar with Chaos Theory? I'm guessing you are...
The reason I ask is, it does appear you are hoping to find a distinct pattern in your W's behaviour so that you can pinpoint where she will be next, so that you can plan your next action.
I completely get what you said above. Yes, we understand our spouses better than most people. At least, we have a long enough experience of them that we should be able to pick up subtle nuances in their behaviour, just as their parents might.
I also understand you are doing everything you can to analyze and cross examine what you are doing against her reactions.
I further understand that GAL is a normal behaviour for you, so that is nothing new for you...
Can we slow this down a bit...? Not sure if I can completely keep up.
While I don't have any statistics on how fast or how slow someone can DB... The rule of thumb here is, this is a marathon, not a sprint.
I find a lot of what you write is focused on your W.
Are you giving any of your GAL or 180s a chance to stick? That would be giving them enough time to become part of your "norm".
As an example, in your last post, you indicated that you have always GAL'd and now you're doing a little more... That would be considered "more of the same".
It is this "more of the same" behaviour that often keeps us stuck. In the years that you have been married to your W, could you describe yourself in the marriage and indicate what some of the "more of the same" behaviours would be, for you.
In that way, we can at least help support you in some 180s that might help give you a certain "mystique" that might cause your W to take notice of you more, make her more curious as to what you are up to. The goal here would be to present a condition where your wife may stop moving away from you and start moving towards you...
