NO it isn't! You are the Man J1. You have just as much control in this as she does. Brutal reality, but don't use that card. You said what you wanted to us, you need to continue to do things to back that up. You can lead this relationship to a better place. It's a crap shoot right now, but you can do it.
We definitely need more info about her reaction, attitude, and feelings to really offer advice though. We listen to you, but we don't get her side.
