I've been avoiding asking this question, but I guess now it's time.
I mostly post in Newcomers, but on Memorial Day weekend I got the "I love you but I'm not in love with you", "I can't see us together", "I no longer have romantic feelings for you".
There's more (some past infidelity on my part, and a brief cyberfling on his, which I responded to with an EA), but everything ended almost 2 years ago. For the last 2 years, I thought we were "happy" - guess not.
Anyway, H has always struggled with his weight, but was about 210 when we married - he's gained about 140lbs in the 10 years we've been together - he's dieted and yoyo'd up and down, but never more than 40-50 lbs.
About 3 months ago, he got serious about diet and exercise, started back on low carb (I hate it, but it works for him), started doing the Power90 workout almost every day, started talking about how he was "old". He's lost about 50lbs, and now he wants to buy new clothes (mostly due to weight loss, I suppose?)
He bought a bike yesterday and took an hour long bike ride, as well.
I don't believe there's anyone else, and he's agreed to MC and we've had 4 sessions - she's pro-marriage, which is really helpful, although it's slow going. I'm thinking of working individually with one of Michele's coaches - H is not interested, but I am.
Some of it feels MLC, and some of it feels like depression mixed with never having dealt with our past issues.
Any input/thoughts?
H: 39, Me: 37 SD: 18, S: 7 M: 9, T: 10 "I love you but am not in love with you" - 5/11 Discovered online affair - 7/11
