You know, I'm deciding more and more that I'm not ready for a serious relationship - and that therefore, the tidbits that are coming my way are just fine as they are!
Most recently, I have a handsome young lawyer from the East Coast who is arriving next week on a six week temporary assignment to my town. Some might say it is foolish to consider dating a guy who will so obviously be temporary. But I'm thinking, if I decide I like him, what better way to spend the next six weeks than having a fling with him? Why not?
(And yes, don't worry, I will make sure he's really single haha)
I don't think there's one darn thing wrong with it...have fun!
Life is good, very busy and very full. Last night I went out salsa dancing and forgot how fun that is! This weekend I have a hike in the mountains to see the wildflowers and it's 4th of July so there will be fireworks somewhere.
All I'm saying is that I think it's important to not make "dating" your entire focus because you're afraid of missing an opportunity, etc. If you trust enough that there's a higher power looking out for you, you will know that it will happen when it's meant to happen. Haven't we all heard these amazing stories of people meeting in the oddest of places? Just believe and it will happen!
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
"One thing is certain: To the person with an unshakable faith that something wonderful is going to happen, something wonderful is happening" ~ Eric Butterworth
On either, just like in real life, you have to go through a lot of "junk" to get to anything of value. But keep in mind that the men outnumber women by 3-1.
Also, the women have to go through a lot of married men that are fishing.
But with that being said, I have met some interesting women, nothing has stuck yet.
For instance, this week I've had a few "disappearances". One guy, who was supposedly a musician on the road due to come back home here in 3 weeks (I always had some doubts about his story)who was calling me and texting.....vanished. (I take it as confirmation that he was a bullshitter as I suspected). A long-time chat friend who disappeared for a couple months once before when he got depressed in the wake of his grandfather's death - took his site down again with no warning.
At the same time, I've got an attorney who is supposed to be coming into town this week (I reserve judgment on all out-of-town contacts until they actually materialize AND I can verify they aren't married!) and a local guy who is looking quite promising. I've learned the fizzle-out rate is high with online contacts so it is best to keep a few things going at once until something pans out.
I got a weird email from a lady who lives 5 1/2 hours away. She said she is in my town twice a month on business. She asked me to send pics to her home email address. I responded that I'd friend her on Facebook. All my pictures are there ... and then poof, no more contact.
I've also seen on Match profiles of my ex's wild friend who goes through guys like water and a former high school classmate who went out with my best friend. We were never friends and it was weird seeing her on there.
All fun.
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Well, I wouldn't friend someone on Facebook that I'd just met online either. In fact, I'm reluctant to let any boyfriend be my FB friend, unless it was a serious relationship. I had an admirer once on FB and he would do kind of weird territorial stuff on my wall.
Today, though, I met a guy the old fashioned way - shopping in Big Lots! A tall handsome African-American guy who walked by and told me he wished he knew how to whistle! I ended up going out for a drink with him this evening - he's a definite possibility. Very sweet, and a perfect gentleman (even though he told me I looked like a piece of candy with legs lol).
KML: Just be safe. Call me a prude or over protective but wouldn't you be concerned if your daughter told you that story. Of course - I wasn't there but it sounds kind of scary.
Aww, Barb - thanks for the concern. Normally I don't go letting guys pick me up in discount stores!!!! But he was so sweet and actually shy about approaching me, I let him have my number. I could tell right off the bat that he would be a very respectful total gentleman - and he was. (Plus, he's darned handsome and just my type )
You're right though, I need to be a little more cautious - while I feel I have pretty good instincts, most people are caught off guard by sociopaths and I shouldn't think I'm immune to that. Still, I felt much more comfortable meeting him for a drink than some of my online dating contacts, because I already had a pretty good sense of what he was about.
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