My W insisted that we "do Christmas" like any normal year.
I was sure there was no value in it, since we were in the final stages of our M. Much of the damage already done. I had already moved out of the house. She had actually conceded to MC prior to the season and on the belief she was at least committed to "trying" to fix our M, it made sense to participate in festivities. Business as usual, so it speak.
In the end, on the 27th of Dec, my W was back into full blown n/c. At least, socially. There was a New Years event that we always participated in and if we were "working things out", I would have expected to participate in. I was NOT invited and I know that her OM was at the event...
So what am I saying here?
I did "more of the same" and it did not help and it did not hurt. It does not matter at this time. Still, if I wanted to affect change, it might have been better that I proceeded with the 180 and NOT participated in Xmas with my W.
This will be a choice that you make FOR YOU. The results will simply be an artifact of the choice. It will MEAN nothing. It will just be information.
If going would be "more of the same", then you could choose this event to do a 180. Or... you can simply choose to go and see where that leads.
Understand that I AM NOT recommending you do not go. I am only putting out the options.
PLEASE DO what YOU feel is the BEST OPTION.
Understand that 180 is not a tactic. If you choose a 180, you need to be consistent with it into the future. You can course correct later if the 180s ultimately have a negative effect. And what appears to be a negative affect at first needs time to settle... any positive results may not be immediately obvious...
