Interesting she would say this. She justified it after, gave her reason for saying it... still... she said it because she somehow believes it, I would suspect...
Had she not explained it, what would your "more of the same" behaviour / comments have been? Possibly important, since she may have let the comment stand, had her parents not been there. Waiting to see if your typical reaction would have surfaced to continue to justify her reason to not rec. You can plan in advance now, so you aren't caught off guard.
Do you think this is recurring? What would she be looking for as a response, do you think? If this is recurring, then there is probably something here that you can support her on, without being pushy.
Originally Posted By: Huh
...she puts one arm in between us. As if to block physical contact...
...tonight she wraps both arms around me and pulls me in very tight and stays there for awhile...
I'd say this is significant, although... this would be a 180 for her. How do you feel you could respond?
In her past hugging, how did you respond? Did you pull her in closer? Try to remove her arm? Or did you just give a half hearted hug? What would be a 180 for you in that situation?
Now that she is hugging you differently, how are you hugging her? The same as you did before or different?
Originally Posted By: Huh
...So I don't talk business with her anymore. Not much anyway. Makes for a lot of quite time but that's ok.
Do you feel the quiet time helps, hurts, or has no affect to your R?
What could you do differently than leaving quiet air? Could you introduce new subjects? Anything that you know of that interests her? Hobbies? Family? That you could talk to her about.
Or let me say that differently... any topic that you could introduce that she might be willing and excited to talk about, that you could just sit and listen to her talk about...?
