I am feeling so much better these days. Still miss my wife to some degree but am thinking about her less. Domt get me wrong, I think about her every hour at least once but it doesnt occupy the entire hour.
Im not seeing the new girl but I am hanging out with her. She is into so many things that I am into including sports and fishing. I told her that if her ex comes around, that she should go for it 100% if that is what she wants. Dont worry about me.
I made a small mistake the other day while texting and it was an honest mistake. Sent text to my wife that was meant for new girl. Nothing sexual and it wife thought it was to her but then Wife texted me and asked if I sent a wrong text.
All it said was that I was in the area helping a friend put in a dock.
Wife then questioned me on geography via text and asked next day if it was meant for someone else and I did not respond. OOOOPS
That is twice I have made that error, once last year. Oh well, let her ponder it.
I was jogging this morning with dog and I think I saw his truck coming towards me in a parking lot, it was a ford. Truck did an abrupt uturn and drove away.
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BITS M-46 W-42 M-16y T-19 y s10 s15 BombDec.19/09 Sep-F16/10 Sep Papers signed by W- June 30/10 Recon July 5/10 PA foundOut- Oct 30/10 Mental HospNov/10 moved out Nov/10 Leg Sep Mar 15/11
Today, OW dropped by unannounced , which took me by surprise but was Ok. She had a friend with her. She swam in the pool for awhile and then just hung out. Youngest son was also in the pool with her. It was a little weird to see that but youngest son seemed ok with it. I guess he is over our split. Oldest isnt.
Then she showed me some amazing stuff. She casually said, I see your boat is still in the driveway, I thought you were getting it in the water this weekend.
I said, I would but none of my friends have returned my calls about getting it in.
She said, well , lets you and I do it. And she was all over it.She has an Escape which I didnt think had the towing capacity. But she manouvered it out of my driveway like a pro, ( truth be told, I couldnt do what she was doing with that trailer)
Then she borrowed her step dads big truck, we went down town , filled it with gas and then , into the water in minutes. It was amazing. My wife could NEVER have pulled that off. She said, I hope i didnt just take over and I said, nope, that was really cool. Then she noticed my back seats had rotted under the material and offered to replace the plywood tomorrow, get me a spotlight for the boat
We took it for a ride, and then I docked it like a pro even though I was a little nervous since I havent driven it in two years and was never the best at docking.
We are going out tomorrow on the boat for a huge ride and possibly, overnight. Wow.
It did feel funny as this boat was our family boat and now I have another woman with me although my wife was so nervous on board and never really relaxed. She made me nervous docking but OW made me feel at ease. She grew up around boats.
Interesting turn of events.
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BITS M-46 W-42 M-16y T-19 y s10 s15 BombDec.19/09 Sep-F16/10 Sep Papers signed by W- June 30/10 Recon July 5/10 PA foundOut- Oct 30/10 Mental HospNov/10 moved out Nov/10 Leg Sep Mar 15/11
I'll toss this somber stuff in the middle to soften the blow a bit. Have your goals changed? You are not D yet. Are you taking a breather or just letting life play out?
You understand that I'm in full on retrospect mode. And I currently am not trying to save my M, atm. So I completely understand if that is the same place you are coming from.
Your S10 appears to see your OW as some "friend" of dad's who is hanging out with him and using the pool and boating with dad...
Your S15, by your words, not so much... how is he acting or what is he saying, regarding OW?
In the mean time, have fun boating! I got a great laugh out of how you were "out maned" in the dry dock maneuvers... lol! Not to mention the unconditional "gifts" she's given (getting your boat in the water, fixing the panels, the light). Truly awesome!
Just wanted to stop by and tell you to have some fun!
I get a kick out of reading your post because I imagine you talk much the same as you write.
I think that it is cool that you are heading out to the lake and having some fun and I think you should continue to live your life and have some fun.
Introduction to the children of a 'friend' is always something you need to be careful with and even though your W has shown little concern with this that is no concern of yours. YOU need to take the higher road here not for your sitch but for yourself.
All I am saying is move a snails pace and do not look to OW to fill any kind of void. Look at her for her qualities and as a person who could potentially add value to your life.
In othre words..........
Dude go have some fun!!!!
She sounds pretty freaking cool to me!
Any woman who can swing a truck like that and throw that boat in the water with great ease is ok in my boook
