Didn't read your post until it was too late.  

I feel better knowing (in a way).  Now she knows I know.  I told her that I was upset, I asked her to concider a new marriage and to abandon the old.  

She says just met him for drinks.  In other words (emotional affair), but she is probably lying about that too.  She says it has been going on since April.  I dont remember everything I said, but I did use the word adulterer.  I asked her if she was proud of the example she was setting for the kids, and a lot more was said, by me.  she says almost nothing.  

What do I do now?

Dispute everything, I do love her, and I think I can forgive her,

She said she needs time to think


Me 45 W 34 W.A.W.
3K. D11 S9 D6
M 12 y T 13 y
Bomb drop 02/22/2011
2nd written bomb (Letter bomb) 05/31/2011
Affair (A bomb) revealed 07/03/2011