I never used to think much about energy; how some people can affect the mood of a group by simply walking into the room. I definitely believe it now and can see how it ties into "suppressed negative thoughts". I still struggle with negative thoughts and emotions, and I still struggle with "control".
I like to be in charge and therefore control my agenda, time, and workload. My W started a business to generate her own income because I was trying to control her, and now I spend 99% of my free time helping my W run that business; strange situation. I now have absolutely no free time and very little control because it’s not my business, and because I can’t do what my W makes look easy.
When trying to control your world, be careful what you wish for.