WAW Very Firm on D

[Grocerykartman]

At some point she was going to end up on a date with guy one way or the other. I figured why not help it along a little.

How did you feel the whole night she was at the game though? What about YOU?

Most likely it will fail anyway.

I read and hear they often do, and my WAW's involvement with OM seems to have dropped off drastically. But do you want to assume this?

When the new wears off she will enter another EA with somebody. A good possibility would be me.

It feels to me like I'm beating up on you, so I'm hesitant to even say this. But you're really making a lot of assumptions here. You're assuming she'll get into another EA. You're also thinking a good possibility would be you, but right now, she's leaving YOU. Does that make sense? I don't think you want to take for granted that there is a strong possibility she'll come back to the man she is sending through the wringer right now.

What I really mean is, you seem to be strategizing. I don't want to see you have this fairly detailed blueprint of the future on your mind, and then end up disappointed.

I DO think you have the right idea about not freaking out. But I think you may be setting yourself up for disappointment if you essentially encourage her to see the OM and just assume it will fail. Be very careful thinking that way. I'm not at all saying you can stop the A, you can't. But I don't think you want to ENCOURAGE it either. If it continues on its own, handle it with class, but encouraging it is just as bad as acting up over it. Why? because it's phony enocuragement. You don't mean it, so why lie to yourself? Unless you felt happy when she was at the game-but that's hard to believe. Don't sell YOU and your emotions short.

I am 99.9% sure my D is going to happen, but you never know.

But, you conclude with this, which is contradictory to the last topic. So, let me ask you this-which do you honestly think is going to happen? Will she see the grass is not greener, or will she go through with the D? Or option C, which is, you just don't know what the future holds?

Hoping, in short, I simply notice a lot of statements in your post where you have sort of written the story before the story actually gets there. I urge you to spend more time reflecting upon yourself and how to make you feel best about yourself, rather than trying to foretell how she'll be acting and thinking later on. All you can control is you.

Best of luck to you.