It's not a view that's discussed around here very often - but I do think it's fair to sometimes admit that our marriages and our partners turn out not to be the institution or person we thought they were.
That's because of our self-interested view of the world. We see the world as we want to see it ... until one of the characters in our story chose to start playing a different role - then we have no option but to really consider if they ever were what we thought they were. I think we often just make it up.
I blindly adored my xh. He is a good, kind, man - but he's as flawed as the next fella. I didn't see his flaws I just adored him. Becoming divorced from my h was the worst and best thing that ever happened to me.
OK ... so maybe your H isn't the man you thought he was. Maybe he is not emotionally mature enough to understand that a committed relationship should be more than a contractual arrangement. Maybe he's just as f-up as the next man ...
in the end it doesnt' matter ... that you are finding more clarity is really the cool thing here.
