DG, I would recommend reading 2step's latest conversation with his X.
It will indicate how true TM's statement above is, regarding the confusion and fear.
They will never see the sitch like we do. They will only see it like they do. Even if they choose to rec, rebuilding the M (the piecing part) will be a matter of attempting to converge how they see things with how we see things and building a new R and M on mutual goals, on the future... the "solutions based M", as it were...
Move on with your life or GAL and wait. Those are the choices in front of you. No matter what, time keeps ticking...
