I read it as though it were a conversation I will have with my W, some time next year, after we are D... and it no longer matters if I'm "nice" to her... and we finally have an open, honest conversation...
I've got no 2x4s. Can't imagine why...
Like I said before, she ain't done with you and you ain't done with her...
And for that reason... I think the conversations went swimmingly well... All I have to say is, keep it up!