WAW, and a bisexual open marriage part 3

[25yearsmlc]

GB,

you said you dated other women before and had r's with them. Did any of them

threaten to cheat on you when you fought? Or when they wanted more attention or were bored?

Your wife extorts you with threats to do porn either to hurt you (or as you euphemistically put it, to "get a rise out of" you)

and she does it also whenever you mention managing money like adults.

She uses OPs as a trump card in fights b/c imo, she doesn't fight in a healthy way.

In fact she blows up or berates you for small "errors", e.g., leaving laundry in the wrong place, or some other minor infraction that healthy people at most, remark upon in a nagging way

but She escalates those minor matters into what you call "full blown" fights.

Sounds like she's a bit of a female bully b/c she has little control of her temper & little interest in changing that.

She has virtually No conflict resolution tools b/c she sulks/pouts/extorts/manipulates or blows up if she doesn't get her way.

Worst, to me, is

her withholding sex from you as a routine method of controlling or punishing you.

Other times she says she's having vague feminine problems for which she doesn't seek medical treatment. Can't ml then, or

when she's got a headache, isn't in the mood, feels stressed, needs a shower & hates feeling dirty, Or just took a shower and feels all clean, or it's not Tuesday...

Sex is her trump card and weapon and

for YOU it is your love language, possibly the only one you've got with her..

hey GB, while I am still rooting for you, what I mean is that

I am rooting for you to be treated with a normal level of love & respect.

I cannot say that it's likely to be with her,

but I wish you well. But IMO,

if you don't make some changes in YOU and how YOU handle her behavior,

to change the dynamic you two have

you will be in this "tragi-drama" the rest of your life.

((( )))