Another text today from w. Her car took a sh!t and she wanted to let me know she was going to have to pull money from our savings.
It was an interesting turn of events. Just 2 wks ago, I was in a car accident. I had to call my w. She was very distant and cold throughout the process. Now it's my turn.
I chose to be pleasant. Thank her for letting me know and if she needed anything, to let me know. It isn't a 180 to offer to help her, but I just felt like it was the right thing to do. When it happened to me, I was like I would never do that to her.. that's not the person I want to be.
I want to be a supportive, loving, positive, person. Those are things I am working on. I started working on them before our separation and I don't plan to stop. She can act however she wants, I will act however I want.
I've had more contact with her in 2 days that I have had in 2 months. Feels weird, but I'm really happy with the progress in myself. Every time I chose love over anger.. it feels good.
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
