Not up to date on your sitch, LMH, so maybe I'm missing something.

Your H indicated that he's rushing the D because you've told him you wouldn't wait around for him.

Why he said that does not matter. Whether he was pushing it in your face or he is simply honouring your wishes.

If you have told him that, he is simply reminding you that you set boundaries. And if we set boundaries, we need to be prepared to uphold them.

Of course, it's OK to change our mind. Just that we should be sure, clear, and committed when setting or stating boundaries.