So w complaints: Vague/trust, quick emotioned, needs to be more emotionall safe, more affection, money
Solutions????
Disappear. Validate EVERYTHING she wants. Doesn't mean you have to speak this to her, but validate her through actions. Silence and distance to let her figure out her feelings. She will not notice unless you are gone.
Now while you disappear off the grid, this doesn't mean you passively wait for her to come back. You actually have to perform 180's for you. If you want her, YOU do have to do things differently. Not for her but for you. She will watch. She will.
Without thinking about her, what are things you could do differently for you that you know you should have done A LONG TIME ago?
For a few minutes, think about if she was dead. Not to be negative, but pretend you had a free do over...what would you do differently? Whatever you come up with...she's dead. Do it for you. Become happy. Do something that makes YOU happy. Now she lives, make her curious. Change you for you. IF you become happy with you, without doing it for her....she might just change her mind.
I've said this in brief points, but if you want the WAS back, you the LBS, needs to become the WAS. This is all about taking your eyes off the sitch, changing who you are, and moving the opposite direction.
