Sorry you're here, man, but you're in a good place.
Definitely read DR multiple times.
Right now you have to look for the small positives, and it's probably going to take some time effort before you will start noticing them.
One part of DB'ing is concentrating on what you CAN control, and that's YOU. Don't be so concerned with what your W is or isn't doing. She's going to do what she's going to do.