MLC I am not sure it is about 'blame' but about understanding what we did contribute to and what we didn't. No point beating ourselves up about things we cannot change or alter.
I am not perfect, Lord knows - people who need to be right or perfect have their own problems.
An index for me is the depth of alienation that has taken place with his [adult] children. Up until 6 years ago he loved them and they were the centre of his life, and then quite suddenly he appeared not to care for them at all. He did go on loving them but stopped acting as if he did. They have all tried, and I have encouraged them to go on having a relationship with their father, but it has been impossible [not difficult, plain impossible] for a long time. Slowly that appears to be changing on his part, but it is a long slow process.
They were there, and they saw the huge change that took place in their father. I really really questioned whether it was a MLC and I have come to the view that it is.
