Some success last couple of weeks. Today had a looooong day and when I got home kids were fighting. When we got to talk W talked all about boss, and got an email from him later, which made her smile and laugh. She showed me email - it was just a follow up on something she had given him a hard time about today. Didn't saw anything but wasn't very happy, had to take a break and recoup.
.....just journaling here....trying to have a good weekend and more success.
I could claim some personal epiphany but it probably has more to do with the fact that W has not had much interaction with her boss lately, and she seems less enthralled with him in general. She hasn't been getting all dolled up, nor does she gush about him like she did. There has been some more office travel - boss scheduled this so W would be able to attend - and after hours office stuff but I've handled it pretty well. Actually, I've been busy and able to enjoy a little bit of the summer without having this on my mind all the time. Worked on the house some, teaching my son how to swim, and discovered a couple of new bands I like.
Otherwise, been reading others' threads and mostly staying quiet.
It's so good to hear from you and especially good to hear that the glamour and passion of OM is fading. Hopefully, your W finally began seeing through the haze.
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So, been wondering, was there a Sandi1?
Ha-ha, yes as a matter of fact there was, but she just went by Sandi. When I registered as Sandi, I was told that name was taken.....so I became #2 I don't think the other Sandi was around very long.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
My in laws want to retire, move to our state, and buy the house across the street. They met with the agent today and seemed excited. W asked what I thought and I was honest - I have concerns. Mostly, my concern is that my W is a hard-driving take charge type of person so at home and at work (we work at the same place) so me, and my more laid back personality, often end up taking a back seat. In the past this has affected me and contributed to the problems my threads are full of. Her family is big, fun, and sometimes overwhelming and when they are around my W runs the show even more than usual. I explained that having them across the street would mean I would have no control over the family schedule, no chance to be the strong husband or leader she says she wants......I'd just fade into the background.
W thinks this is ridiculous. And if it is a problem I should just get over it, man up, speak up, and make demands. Which, I've learned is great, right up until the point we have a difference of opinion. I could do this - and frankly, I'll probably HAVE to do this - but it is exhausting.
It is exactly the thing that started our problems and I WILL NOT go back to that place again.
I mean, move to our town. ok. move into our community. ok. across the street? come on!
anyone with any experience with close at hand in laws????
I don't think the other Sandi was around very long.
